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It is my belief that developing the competence of observation enhances the quality and value of life. Skilled observation increases presence, equanimity and compassion. It also gives us information to make wise decisions about what we do and how we speak. Observing helps us understand our values, principles and beliefs (and those of others) that guide our day-to-day lives.

Increasing this skill does not have to be a chore. It can be fun exploring life in a non-academic way. Try playing with a child, going on a hike, discovering a foreign culture, reading a book or poem, watching a movie, going to a play, singing a song (or listening for those of us who are non-singers).

When doing these things ask yourself Ė "What do I feel? What have I learned? How will I use what I have learned to guide what I do in the future? What will I do?"

Here are some resources that will help you grow.  Iíll add to the list periodically.

Stopping: How to be Still When You Have to Keep Going by Dr. David Kundtz (Conari Press, 1998) For those who feel their lives are crammed and running at an ever faster pace, this book suggests ways to find your center.
Donít Just Do Something, Sit There by Sylvia Boorstein (HarperSanfrancisco, 1996) This book is filled with practices for sitting. It is an accessible, small book, gentle, not overly analytical or religious and filled with technique, advice and permission.
A Path with Heart by Jack Kornfield (Bantam Doubleday Dell July 1993) This highly approachable, classic spiritual book is one of the best on meditation and the concept of mindfulness. It is a book for beginning and advanced practitioners.
The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver (Harperperennial Library, October 1999) This popular novel tells a tale through the differing voices and stories of a mother and her daughters. Helps recognize that everyone has their own story.
The works of Stephen Sondheim A brilliant composer, lyricist and story teller, Sondheim writes about desire to make a mark on the world, interconnectedness of lives, wishes and what happens after wishes come true, purpose, diversion from purpose, assumptions, blame, obsessions, abandonment, beliefs, past creating the present, fear ....... Get the CDs and follow the words. Some productions, Sunday in the Park with George and Into the Woods are available at the video store. They are worth searching out or seeing in the theater.
Shaving the Inside of Your Skull by Mel Ash (J P Tarcher, January 1997) This is a zippy, in-your-face, fun and challenging book. If you want to examine your beliefs, where you got them and how they create your life, get this book. I dare you.
Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki and Sharon L. Lechter (Warner Business Books, 1997) develop financial literacy, redefine your relationship with money
Getting It Done: How to Lead When You're Not in Charge by Roger Fisher and Alan Sharp et al (Harperbusiness, 1998) Written by the author of Getting to Yes and one of the Coverdale International Group founders, this book lays out important principles for working with and coaching subordinates as well as, colleagues. Its chapter on the effects of a commonly held purpose in organizations is insightful.
Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In by Roger Fisher and William Ury (Penguin, December 1991) A classic negotiation text that introduces new ways of about getting agreement and managing conflict. It is the first of worthy books by both authors.
LifeLaunch: A Passionate Guide to the Rest of Your Life, by Fredric Hudson and Pamela McLean (Hudson Institute Press, 1996) LifeLaunch offers an inclusive cycle of life renewal model that is valuable grounding for those wanting to make changes in their lives.
Transitions by William Bridges (Addison-Wesley, 1980) Bridges offers another way of looking at change and renewal in life. A classic.
The Heart of Coaching by Thomas G. Crane (FTA Press, 1998) Well written, this book captures the spirit and practice of coaching, as well as broadens the role of leadership to include coaching as a mandatory skill set for success.
Coaching: Evoking Excellence in Others by James Flaherty (Butterworth Heineman, 1998) This serious text provides both a firm intellectual foundation and methodology for coaching. The book uses a coaching style and makes you think. It includes examples, models and an extensive bibliography.


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Last update 3/5/2001.